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Recently, I was chatting with a guy who had an issue about identifying his sexuality. He is 25 years old.

I'm really confused about my sexuality. If you ask me, I don't know whether I'm straight, gay or bisexual. Once I met a guy from online with the intention of having a relationship. We became very close. But when it came to sex, I started feeling hesitant. At last I agreed to do it, but I couldn't enjoy and I had to stop it in the middle. I had no such problems when I did it with a gal. But I do not understand why I keep searching for a guy, I'm so confused.

When I probed further, I came to know that he has no brothers or sisters. He has many friends but he couldn't find anyone suitable to be close with. I'm no psychologist, but I being the only child, I know how frustrating and lonely one can feel in his shoes. To tell you the truth, I always wished for a brother, an elder brother. So what I understand from this guy's situation is that since he was the only child and he didn't have any close buddy, he was trying to fill that void by searching for a guy with whom he can share some intimate feelings, like those straight guys feel for their best buds.

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Last week I happened to see a beautiful sight. A guy came and hugged his friend from behind and both of them stood like that for some time. They were not at all feeling conscious of what the public might think (in fact, the people there didn't mind at all!), unlike gays who find even holding hands to be horrific. As usual, I started feeling jealous for the guy who was being hugged because I wanted to be that guy and also the other guy was looking so damn good! :P

In my opinion, we all yearn to be touched by people whom we care and love. It makes us feel wanted and important. And for guys, after their infancy, they count on siblings and close friends to give this. When they don't get that, there feel an emptiness, something missing in their lives. Girls usually don't feel the void because of the "sisterhood" they develop with their mothers. That's why I'm of the sentiment that if the firstborn is a male, you just gotta have to push down one more!

Coming back to this guy, I told him, instead of searching guys for relationships what he really should be doing is to find a guy for intimate friendship, with whom he could give and get all the attention and care. I also suggested to him not to be quick in labeling himself as gay or bisexual because as far as I can see, he is just like any other straight guy.

So I would love to know your opinion regarding this. What do you have to say about his situation?

By the way, there is this another guy who says he is not born or made gay, but he feels like he could be gay when he reads this blog. Hmm.. are you telling me this blog has the magic to convert straights now? :P

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CSB Now Straight-Friendlier Than Ever!

Crazy Sam's Bloginess: CSB April 09 Mock-up Magazine Cover Toni Sulankivi

I may be taking this whole "straight-friendly" thing too seriously, but I gotta admit.. it's kinda overwhelming when I see people linking to this blog (thank you!) as "The Straight-Friendly Gay Blog". But I always had the doubt (and some have expressed their concerns), would any straight person care to read this blog when the first thing he or she sees as the page loads, is a close up shot of a guy's crotch? At a time when we are trying to make others understand that homosexuality is much more than having sex with the same gender, I felt the banner of this blog was sort of evincing the message of prurience. We tend to throw our sexuality on society's face with vulgarism and obscenity. Take for example, the gay parades. I know we need to make our voices heard, but do we really have to resort to those obtrusive and lewd exhibitionism that only make people cringe? I have never been to a gay pride parade and may be media likes to promote only those images, but why can't we have parades devoid of any "vulgar flaunting of sexual orientation"? How about marching by guys holding hands of guys and gals with gals? It is distinct and it sends out the message loud and clear, don't ya think so?

On that spirit, this month CSB rolls out its new blog banner. Simultaneously, new badge has also been put up for your linking pleasure. Please find it in the CSB badge area on the third column. Also I have added a link to an article under "Must-Reads" section (appearing in the middle column). Conny Van Dyke, the actress, writes an open letter to all mothers of gay and lesbian children instructing them to let go of their intolerance, not their loved ones. A must-read it is! [via Pop Max Now]

Finally.. During the whole month of March, CSB asked the readers what do they consider as their first sexual experience. Thanks to all the 234 individuals who took part in the poll. Here is the result:

7% (17) -> kissing
18% (41) -> mutual masturbation
25% (59) -> oral
50% (117) -> anal

Another question was regarding the age at which they first "got lucky".

5% (10) -> 5-9
9% (20) -> 25-29
18% (39) -> 10-14
33% (72) -> 20-24
35% (77) -> 15-19

I should have also added another option "30 and above", coz only 218 people responded to this one. Apologies to those 16. Anyways, I had fun doing this and hope you guys did too!

So going by the popular opinion, I'm still ehmm.. you know! :P